A Single Step

Greetings! I’m so excited to publish my initial post on my new blog, Transilience. This is the first step on what I hope will be a long and productive journey. Please join me often!

I thought long and hard about a subject for this first post and decided an explanation of the name, Transilience, was a good place to start. By definition, transilience is a sudden or abrupt change and is closely paired with the word resilience in the English language. Both words describe my experiences of the past decade or so, and as I talk with women of similar age I find this to be common. The “change of life” is about so much more than one’s reproductive status.

I chose the name to represent this new endeavor because through sharing my thoughts and observations of this vibrant and exciting time of life, I hope to inspire you and other women and encourage you to also embrace the transformations life delivers to your door. As our roles shift, so does our identity. It is only through mindful and conscious effort that we can craft a self-image that prepares us to meet new challenges and to fully welcome the opportunities that come our way. I want to encourage you to step into new roles with confidence and joy.

When I entered my fifties, 10 years ago, my mother said to me that it would be the best decade of my life. It certainly started out that way. I was hitting my stride as a newly minted farmer and businesswoman, confident and filled with the joy of a dream realized. Sharing this earthy existence with my husband, and learning to be a grandmother to my daughter’s young son brought boundless happiness my way. I had chosen farming over my life as a working artist, the first of what I now see was a cascade of changes that have culminated in this moment.

Over the course of the decade just past, the winds of change fiercely blew my way. I became a part-time caregiver to my elderly parents and ultimately said a final goodbye to them both. My beloved grandson, shockingly, suffered a stroke at the age of nine, teaching us all a lesson in the fragility of life as well as the resilience of youth as he fought his way back from The Great Abyss. We learned that Will, my dear husband, had cancer and we embarked on the relentless roller-coaster ride that is cancer treatment. We gave up our farming business, unable to continue with him being ill. Somewhere in the midst of the madness, a knee injury from 20 years ago began to plague me again, turning my active and healthy body into what at times seemed like one of an aging and somewhat disabled old woman.

When my recent birthday marked the beginning of a new decade of life, my seventh (gasp!), it seemed I was handed a choice. The week before, we had received the very finest of gifts-that of my husband’s return to health. The cancer which had so recently ravaged his body was no where to be found. Against all odds, modern medicine handed us back our life. My choice? Simply this: am I going to walk away as quickly as possible from the pain and sadness of the past decade or will I accept the lessons and share them with others? You are reading my decision. I will make it all count for something beyond simple survival and allow Transilience to flower into Resilience. Let change inspire growth, let resilience build strength.

Join me as I explore the topics and challenges that we share, and let’s find inspiration together as we embrace the changes that come our way.


14 thoughts on “A Single Step

  1. Very excited to be along for the ride. This kind of content is exactly what I need as I am owning my new role(s) and saying goodbye to old ones.

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  2. Girl! This is awesome and thanks for starting with the definition! New word for me!

    It’s amazing that at this very moment in time, we are again embarking on new courses of direction together! I’ve spent this week at work talking to co-workers about my new life style changes and how excited I am to be finally at the point to make the changes I knew must come. And here you are creating a space in which to share! ❤️❤️❤️

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  3. A lovely beginning to your new blog, Carolyn! I hope it will be fulfilling for you as I am sure it will be for your followers. Congratulations on this new chapter in your life. I will enjoy reading your submissions all along.

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  4. This is a great blog, based on new beginnings, one day at a time. This is awesome and I am very excited to go on this journey with you.

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  5. Good morning, dear friend! I just heard that today is International Women’s Day! I feel like I have witnessed one wonderful woman run across a finish line with the shimmering ribbon flowing on either side of her chest with both hands held high. Thank you for sharing your wonderful story—and brand new word—with the world. I look very forward to the pages that follow and will wait with a smile on my face.

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    1. Thank you, Mary Liz. Your words of encouragement and your precious friendship mean so much to me. How could I not cross the finish line with strong, loving and loyal women having my back? I will do my best to live up to your words!


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